We promised and now we’re delivering! Here is the long awaited guest post from Molly Cover, a person we know and like. Molly knows a lot about almost everything (case in point: she gave me an expert opinion on bed bugs recently- who knows about stuff like that?) so it’s only fair that we pass her knowledge on to you! Enjoy!
I am, by no means, a marriage expert. Having 2 and a half years of experience under my belt hardly qualifies me to give much advice. And while I feel like I’m improving in some areas—cooking, keeping house, not crying all the time—I have a long way to go.
But one area where I AM an expert is what I miss about not being married. Please don’t misunderstand. I love my husband and I love being married. He is my very best friend and I can’t imagine my life without him. Still, from time-to-time there are some things I miss about being single. Things I wish I had appreciated more when I didn’t have a boy in my bed. So single girls: listen up! I hope you’re looking forward to marriage, because you should. But in the meantime, take heed. Enjoy these things. They WILL go away.
1. Having your own bed. As referenced above, I now share a queen size bed with a BOY. A 6’2” boy and a 30 lb. dog, to be exact. I got this bed my sophomore year of college. It was comfy, spacious, and all mine. I could sleep wherever I wanted. Now I am confined to one side of it. Most of the time said boy and dog take up ¾ of the space while I’m left to fend for myself and hold onto the covers for dear life. So all my single ladies, enjoy your bed while you can. Buy a ruffled quilt from Anthropologie and snuggle up with a good book. Watch Hulu in bed while drinking a generously-poured glass of wine and eating cookies. There is no one to judge you. In the meantime, I’ll be the one sweating underneath a dog-blanket and eating Oreos over the kitchen sink before bed*.
2. Shopping. I miss shopping. For me, getting married meant growing up and having a budget. As a single gal, I could afford to pay my bills AND where cute dresses. Not anymore. Now I’ve got cash in envelopes and a house payment to worry about. J. Crew sale? Why even bother?! All of a sudden I’m thinking about things like buying furniture and landscaping the backyard. Still awake? Didn’t think so. The moral of the story here is: look cute.
3. The non-existence of Fantasy Sports in your home. They exist now and men (especially my husband) love them. I assume that some girls probably love them too, but I refuse to believe that any woman genuinely loves sports. I just don’t buy it. You can make ESPN.com your home screen and talk about trades (those happen in sports, right?) but I will never believe you. Ever. Before marriage I thought that fantasy sports were things that boys did when they were too nervous to talk to girls in junior high. It turns out that grown, married men get emotionally invested in fake-owning football players. It is also a very real part of my life that I cannot escape. Hold on while you can, sister.
4. Snacks as meals. You know how sometimes you’re hungry for everything in your pantry? It’s ok, we all are. So you just make a plate of cheese, crackers, veggies, fruit, chocolate, fruit snacks, whatever, and that is dinner. I usually accompany said dinner with a glass of wine or rogue beer I find in the back of the fridge. I could also eat this way every night. But apparently men like an actual meal. They don’t want snacks.
In conclusion, I’m not suffering here. It is just different. Different isn’t bad, it just isn’t the same as what I would choose. But that’s ok. We’re saving for a king size bed. My mom still takes me shopping when she notices that my shoes look old and sad. Sometimes David is too busy to watch sports and I get to marathon episodes of Four Weddings while eating only cheese, apples, and candy until I’m full! What I’m saying is that it is all going to be ok. Marriage thrives on compromise, but don’t be afraid to hold on strong to the things you can’t live without**.
*Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.